I’ve never ever officially been punched in the face by a jealous boyfriend in my life, but I’ve come close on a few occasions. Granted, those times were mostly in my younger days, but I feel liek that is the best way to answer the question people always seem to want to ask me when they findout that I write erotic romance.
There’s a good chance that you are reading this right now and have no idea who the hell I am. The internet has made it easier for people to answer just about any question they may have, so if you’re so inclined, I’ll let you use it to do just such a thing at the moment. But please, try to stay focused while you are out there searching. I don’t want you coming back here with spoilers about the next episode of The Walking Dead.
I was a terrible flirt back in my younger days. I can actually hear the eyerolls. “Younger days”. But it’s true. I had a slow start with girls, not actually having my first kiss until I was 16. Which would astound you if you’d known me back then, because I was super-cute and a hot commodity at my high school when it came to the ladies. But after that kiss, I quickly became quite enamoured with the female population.
I am well aware that women as a species (and what a glorious species it is) love the idea of the chase. Women love to be pursued. They love to be wooed and seduced. What I don’t think a lot of women ever fully know or appreciate, is that men enjoy it just as much. It’s true, the culmination of the flirting and courting is the main goal, don’t get it twisted, the flirting and chasing and seducing is fun, but I do eventually want to have my hands all over that body, girl. And that I think is what led me to the place in my writing career that I am at now. I found a way to use writing, to use my words to seduce women en masse, without the threat of a punch to the nose.
Liek in the latest book I co-authoured with my writing partner and friend Sable Hunter. The lead male in the book, Micah Wolfe, is the quintessential flirt. Never does Micah miss an opportunity to make a women blush in his presence. I find I can connect better with a character liek this, with a character in a story who finds himself so utterly and completely consumed with a woman that he almost can’t help himself, he acts over the top, he enjoys her attention as much as she enjoys his and he’ll take risks to get it. Writing what I do gives me that opportunity. It gives me that opportunity to have that thrill of that first meeting of the characters. It gives me the opportunity to live that moment over and over and over again, that moment where he sees her and right away he knows he wants to spend more time with her. It’s liek writing a first date, a first kiss, a first touch of bare skin, again and again and again.
Male or female, we all know that feeling, the rush, those butterflies of nervousness we all get when you meet someone and it just clicks, or you meet them and it doesn’t click, but by God do you ever want it to click. And that’s what I found in the books that I write. I’ll be honest, I don’t know why more writers and especially male writers, don’t give it a shot.
But then again, maybe it’s better for me that they don’t
*Article taken from The Book Escape Ezine
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